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One hub, ten tools, each built around one question people actually search for. Every tool is free for a first check and runs in your browser.
10 tools · Free first check · Runs in your browser
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Dating · Free tool
Dating Red Flag Scanner
You do not need a perfect answer. You need a clear read of the words in front of you. Paste the chat into this red flag scanner, and see which patterns show up, with the exact lines that raised them.
Dating · Free tool
BIFF and Grey Rock Reply Maker
You do not have to win the argument. You have to end the loop. Paste their message, choose the situation, and get a short BIFF reply you can copy, edit, and send. That is how to respond to a narcissist text without feeding the fight.
Dating · Free tool
No Contact Tracker + Urge SOS
No contact is not about willpower. It is about having a plan for the moment you want to break it. Track your streak with this no contact tracker, write the risky text here first, and use SOS when the urge hits.
Co-parenting · Free tool
Co-Parent Message Shield
You cannot stop their messages, but you can stop reading them raw. This co-parenting message help shields the message first: reply only to logistics, and keep a clean record.
Co-parenting · Free tool
Evidence Vault + Pattern Timeline
When someone rewrites what happened, your record matters. Save the message, add the date and what happened, and watch the pattern build over time. Your safe place for narcissistic abuse evidence.
Family · Free tool
Narcissistic Parent Boundary Script Maker
You do not need a long speech. You need one clear line for narcissistic parent boundaries, and a plan for when they push back. Pick the situation, and get a script for it.
Dating · Free tool
Trauma Bond Checker
Missing them does not mean the relationship was good. It can mean the cycle trained you to wait for the good part. Take this trauma bond test: answer honestly, and see the pattern in plain words.
Dating · Free tool
Hoover and Apology Checker
A good apology has changed behaviour behind it. A hoover has good words and the same pattern. Run a hoovering check: paste the message, and check which one it looks like.
Family · Free tool
Safety Plan Builder
Leaving is not always possible today. A plan is. Build your safety plan for narcissistic abuse step by step, keep it private, and update it when your situation changes.
Work · Free tool
Workplace Message Checker
Work messages are hard to read, because power is involved. Paste the message, run a workplace gaslighting check, and get a professional reply that protects your record.
Find your starting point
Choose by your situation
Still living with them, or still in contact
Stay safe, and hold your boundaries.
Co-parenting or divorcing
Reply to logistics only, and keep a clean record.
Trying to stay no contact
Track your streak, and survive the hard days.
At work
Check messages from a narcissist boss, then reply in writing and keep your record.
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Please note
Our tools check patterns in words, not a diagnosis. They never label a person, and they are not therapy, legal advice, or medical advice.
If you are in danger, call your local emergency number. In the US, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1 800 799 7233.