Clear answers for hard relationships, in minutes.
Check a message, get a calm reply, track no contact, and keep a dated record or build a safety or boundary plan.
Free first check on every tool · No account needed · Pattern checks, not diagnoses
How it works
Three steps, no sign up, Your first check runs in this browser.
Paste or describe
Paste a message, answer plain questions, or start a tracker, vault, or plan. No account needed for a first check.
See the pattern
The tool names what it sees in the words, with quotes from the exact lines that raised each flag.
Get your next step
A calm reply, a boundary script, or a safe record you can keep.
The toolbox
All 10 tools
Ten AI tools for narcissistic abuse. Each tool answers one real question people ask every day.
Dating · Free tool
Dating Red Flag Scanner
Paste a dating chat and check for love bombing, guilt, control, and other red flag patterns, before you get deeper. Free first check.
Scan a chat now →Dating · Free tool
BIFF and Grey Rock Reply Maker
Paste a hard message and get a short, calm, BIFF reply: Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm. No long explanation, no emotional hook.
Make a calm reply →Dating · Free tool
No Contact Tracker + Urge SOS
Track your no contact streak, get help when the urge to text hits, and keep a private record of why you left. Free to start.
Start my streak →Co-parenting · Free tool
Co-Parent Message Shield
Filter harsh co-parenting messages, get a calm BIFF reply, and keep a dated record. Built for high conflict co-parenting.
Shield a message →Co-parenting · Free tool
Evidence Vault + Pattern Timeline
Save messages, notes, and dates in one private vault, and see the pattern on a timeline. Organised and dated, so you can show it to a professional if you choose.
Start my vault →Family · Free tool
Narcissistic Parent Boundary Script Maker
Get short, calm boundary scripts for a narcissistic mother or father: calls, visits, money, guilt, and holidays. Say less, hold the line.
Get my script →Dating · Free tool
Trauma Bond Checker
Answer plain questions about the highs, lows, and pull back to them, and see if a trauma bond pattern fits. Clear, kind, and private.
Check my pattern →Dating · Free tool
Hoover and Apology Checker
Paste their apology or comeback message and check for hoover patterns: love bombing, guilt, crisis, and promises with no change.
Check this message →Family · Free tool
Safety Plan Builder
Build a private safety plan: documents, money, a safe contact, and what to do if things escalate. For people still living with a difficult person.
Build my safety plan →Work · Free tool
Workplace Message Checker
Paste a work message and check for blame shifting, credit taking, and gaslighting patterns, plus a calm, professional reply.
Check a work message →Find your starting point
Choose by your situation
Not sure where to start? Pick the situation that sounds like yours.
Still living with them, or still in contact
Plan for safety first, then find your words.
Co-parenting or divorcing
Logistics only, in writing, with a clean record.
Trying to stay no contact
Hold the line on the hard days.
At work
Check messages from a narcissist boss, then reply in writing and keep your record.
Honest limits
What these tools do not do
They do not diagnose anyone
Only a qualified professional can assess a person. These tools check patterns in words and behaviour you describe.
They do not replace a lawyer or doctor
They help you organise, reply calmly, and keep records. Legal and medical decisions need a professional.
They are not for emergencies
If you are in danger, call your local emergency number.
Common questions
Questions people ask first
Is this a narcissist test?
No. It checks patterns in messages and behaviour you describe. Only a qualified professional can assess a person.
Do I need an account?
No for a first check. An account is only for saving your own records, if you choose it.
Are my messages saved?
Your first check runs in this browser. Saved on this device only, unless you choose to save it to your account.
Can I use this for court?
The Evidence Vault helps you keep a dated, organised record, but it is not legal advice.
Which tool should I start with?
If you have a message, start with the Red Flag Scanner. If you need to reply, start with the BIFF Reply Maker.
Ready for clearer conversations?
Start with the tool that fits your situation. No account needed for a first check.